Social networks are really boring

Women are natural social networkers; indeed the stereotype of “chatty” women (false as it is) suggests that the world of social networking is a natural place for women to go online. And you wouldn’t be wrong.

A new analysis of more than 50 million social networking members shows that women love social networking – up to a point. In the under 24 age bracket, women outnumber men in most social networks. Indeed, on MySpace and Facebook there are almost twice as many women under 24 as men.

But look at the figures as you go through the age groups. Gradually women are dropping out of their “natural” home of social networking. By the time you get to the 45-54 age group, men are outnumbering women. So are older men more sociable than older women? Or are younger men just not interested in chatting online to others?

My guess is that the older women have discovered over the years that there is more fun to be had doing other things than chatting seriously about things that probably don’t matter. Visit social networking sites and you’ll find the middle-aged men are often discussing “important” matters like the economy, gadgets, football and so on.

It’s the old alpha male scenario in action. Men attempt to become the “Silverback” of their group. For gorillas this is done as a result of the elder male gorillas using dominant behaviours. For human males we do our posturing in groups of other men, establishing our importance by the contributions we make to the weighty topics of the day. And frankly, that just bores women – indeed it bores many men as well.

The chances are that those younger women in social networks – and there are millions of them – are also unlikely to connect with those boring old men. Gosh they are behaving just like their fathers – yuck!

What does it all suggest? That social networks will forever be divided – in much the same way as men go down the pub with their mates and women have a “girly night” at home. It’s a stark reminder that if you want to truly connect with your audience online you have to understand them. Once again, those middle-aged, fuddy-duddy business men are revealing how little they know about women. If they understood them, they’d stick around on these social networks to engage in the conversation.

2 thoughts on “Social networks are really boring”

  1. I don't see why so many people are addicted to social sites, or even like them. They are boring. Facebook, myspace, twitter, all of them are boring. They are boring because they are useless and pointless. Things that are useless are boring, makes sense. Someday all these sites will be flushed away and gone forever. They are a waste of time. I got rid of all of mines because i started to notice this. And now i see that i never needed them in the first place since i don't have any of them now. They are pointless, and a fad.

  2. Angelique, thanks for the comment. I doubt these sites will be flushed away..! Lots has happened since I wrote this article a couple of years ago and they are now much more functional. Indeed, recent research shows that Generation Y women prefer online social networking to face-to-face communication. Far from wasting time, people are now perceiving these sites as fundamental to their life.

    Of course it is "horses for courses" so for many people – and I suspect you are one of them – such sites will never replace the joy of being with real people in the real world. And, in fact, research shows that most people are like this. They use the online sites to facilitate more real world social activity.

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